Dear You

Welcome to my head. What I write here is a product of instances, consequences, coincidences, and heartache. Here before you is my soul- my inner trappings. Yours truly, Her.

Monday, July 28, 2008

Gepsych has its points

Ok, I just had Gepsych 2 hours ago and our lesson was still fresh in my mind...LOVE XD Ok, I know it's a sappy subject to discuss but seriously, there were a lot of things that were so eye-opening. Like as to why boys are from mars and girls are from venus. THERE ARE BIOLOGICAL EXPLANATIONS. Yes, it's true. Our biological make-up and anatomy is a cause of why relationships don't work out sometimes. Let me elaborate:

You see, girls have a bigger hypothalamus and the part in the brain where speech and comprehension are big too, THUS they like talking about their feelings by talking...explains also why we like talking and talking and talking.... Notice when there's a break-up or a new flame, we like to talk about it with our friends.

On the other hand, boys are more hands-on. As in they 'do' instead of talk. Like for example, when they're really pissed, they play basketball or some sport...or they just fight hahaha. However, I doubt the 'doing' when it comes to the 'in love' part haha.

So yes, this is one reason why break-ups happen; guys and girls are never on the same page. The girl can complain that the guy never opens up and talks to her or sometimes the guy complains that he's 'nasasakal' na with the girl.


In addition, there's a difference with LOVING someone and being IN LOVE with someone. Love is an emotion, a feeling and our feelings are always changing. Soooo, being in love with someone is initial. Here: If someone tells you he/she loves you, ask her what does he/she mean by "love" because there are 3 ideas/levels under love: passion, intimacy, and commitment. The order of these ideas depend on each person's opinion. Thus, making it more complicated to be on the same page with someone you like.

For example, the guy believes
1. intimacy
2. commitment
3. passion
The girl on the other hand believes
1. commitment
2. passion
3. intimacy

So here's what happens: including the effects of our biological make-up in terms of how each gender acts/shows emotions and the relativeness of the levels/ideas of love to each individual... wow, that's what I call "It's Complicated" hahahaha!

Yours Truly

Yours Truly
Her